We analyzed over 16,000 peoples’ responses to structured questions to find what Normal adults are trying to achieve in their lives and relationships and what really motivates them. We found a very short list; three things that everyone wanted to have in their life:

1. Stable, supportive personal relationships with themselves and others. Relationships that include adequate empathy and emotional vulnerability. We named this, The Comfort of Loving Attachment.
2. A stable sense of competency that allows people to admire themselves and others, and others to admire them. We called this, the Validation of Admiration, and,
3. Peace of Mind. Peace of Mind means a calm, comfortable emotionally connected feeling in your chest and stomach. We found that over the long haul only people who can consistently achieve the two other things on the list achieve true Peace of Mind.

Like me before the research, most people don’t know the 3 Basic Motivations are what they are trying to achieve. We all say we want Success and Peace of Mind, but we don’t have a clear focus on what will help us achieve these goals. And most people have no objective way of knowing how well they’re doing in achieving the 3 Basic Motivations…..if what they are doing works or is self-defeating.

Because of this lack of understanding, most people, very likely you, work very hard to get what you want, yet when you get it, after the bloom is off, things don’t feel much better.

Would you like to know how successful you are in achieving the 3 Basic Motivations?

Think about your relationship with yourself. It’s more important than you’ve ever realized. You create your life based on your inner design. Your inner design is based on your relationship with yourself. The basis of this design is your experience of yourself and how you re-create that experience in your relationships. The essence of your relationship to yourself is your Personal BluePrint.

During our research, we found the 14 patterns of behavior that determine whether you create Success and Peace of Mind or stress and self-defeating behavior in your life. These 14 patterns of behavior are separated into personal relationships and work relationships and how you treat yourself in both situations.

Relationship behaviors that further or hurt work relationships:

• Criticizing yourself and others at work
• Being in control of people at work
• Being in control of situations at work
• Being task oriented at work
• Being part of the team at work
• Attending to feelings and personal needs at work
• Speaking up about work standards

Relationship behaviors that further or hurt personal relationships:

• Criticizing yourself and others in relationships
• Attending to feelings and personal needs in relationships
• Managing personal vulnerability in relationship
• Asking for what you need in relationships
• Managing control in relationships
• Gaining approval from others in relationships
• Managing conflict in relationships

Wouldn’t you really like to know how well you manage these patterns of your Personal BluePrint? The test will print out just your patterns. There are over 87,000,000,000 different pattern combinations. You are not put into a quadrant, or a “profile.” The patterns you see are the patterns of your Personal BluePrint, uniquely yours.

Several years ago, a large organizational client asked us to develop a packaged training component for the self-test so all their employees, not just top staff, could learn about the patterns of their Personal BluePrints and have a coaching program developed just for them personally.

To make this training program available off the web and for a price that a corporation buying thousands of tests could afford, we needed to discover the most basic level of behaviors that made up all other relationship behaviors, like atoms make up molecules.

After thousands of staff hours of analysis, we found six patterns of behavior that are the atoms of all other relationship behaviors. We named them the 6 Core Interpersonal Competencies. Our clients told us they were the 6 Essential Tools of Personal Growth. These behavioral atoms are the 6 patterns of behavior that you manage or mismanage to create all the personal and work relationship patterns in your life.

In time, we found that most people really mismanage only two of the six, so as the test server is scoring your self-test it determines the two that are creating the most problems for you. Then the server prints out two complete chapters, over 40 pages of explanations and exercises that you apply to the information in the remainder of the printout.

So the way it works is:

• You take the 150-question Personal BluePrint self-test off the web.
• You immediately get back 4 to 5 pages of concise and easy to read descriptions of your behavior in the 14 sets of personal and work behaviors. In these descriptions, I describe exactly how you act and tell you if the patterns are “self defeating.” I know the descriptions are accurate, because our research with clients established that clients agree with over 98.5% of the words used to describe them.
• You get a personal training program based on the patterns of your Personal BluePrint. Specifically, the test determines which two of the 6 Essential Tools of Personal Growth that you are mismanaging the most and prints out a two chapter-training program for you to work through. The training chapters describe what it looks like if you are mismanaging the behaviors and what it looks like when you begin to manage them well. There are exercises to do. Just follow the program faithfully and you will be going down the path of achieving Success and Peace of Mind. (When we coach people personally through this program, we are paid $2,000.00 per day.)

I want you to know as much about how your Personal BluePrint creates your life as possible. In fact, when friends ask what my goal is I say, “I want everyone in the world to understand that they have a Personal BluePrint, that it controls their life and that unless they understand how it works, they will suffer needlessly.”

Still, we’re getting close to the end of what I can tell you in this sort of sound byte format. Here’s the bottom line. Your Personal BluePrint creates your life and determines how you will relate to yourself and others. You maintain the current state of your Personal BluePrint by how you relate to yourself and others and how they relate to you as a result of your actions towards them.

Let me recap:

• We all want the same thing--Success in relationships and work in how we define it and Peace of Mind.
• To create Success and Peace of Mind in your life, you need to know how your personality works, what you do that creates Success and Peace of Mind or self-defeating behavior and stress. And you need it in a brief and clear form. No psychologese or west coast spirituality.
• There are only two places to get this information about you personally. Here, from this website, or come to my office in Napa, CA and work with me, or my staff.
• You can’t get the information about your personality that is on this website from a therapist, even your therapist. Why? There is only one full model of Normal personality that has been developed, the Personal BluePrint approach. If you feel skeptical, search the web, including the professional paper sections from the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Association for a model of normal human (key word here is NORMAL) behavior…or choose any words you wish. Look in any Psychology book in any library and any place on the web. The information only exists in three places, here, in the books and papers I’ve spent my lifetime working on, and at my office.
• So, if you want a full assessment of the patterns of your Personal BluePrint organized in a way that will tell you what works and what doesn’t and then learn exactly what to do to create Success and Peace of Mind, you can get the information off my website if you cannot come to Napa, CA. You pay $25.00 to take the test from my website and receive the print-out results as described, whereas a full consultation at my office costs $1200.00. The full consultation includes a 5 to 7 page report that not only tells you the patterns of your Personal BluePrint and what to do about them (what the self-test teaches you), but also gives a full explanation and concrete description of your Personal BluePrint and a training program outline.

My advice is, take the self-test. When you complete the test, the server will score the test and print out a 4 to 5 page Personal BluePrint personality analysis. What is more helpful, the server will also print a 40 plus page strategy for you to follow to better manage your life, to create more Success and more Peace of Mind.

After that, if you are absolutely intrigued and want to know more, choose “Services” from the navigation bar at the top of any page on this site. You will see that we offer complete personal growth programs. One program is web and phone based coaching. The second set of programs require you to be able to come to the Napa Valley. If you’re from out of town and have the resources, we can set up a Napa Valley vacation for you.

In addition, if you come in to the office and want your spouse’s or partner’s Personal BluePrint overlaid onto your graph, we’ll do it and you’ll be blown away. It will tell you exactly why you’re having the communication problems you’re having and exactly what you can do to resolve the issues. You can only fall in love with someone with a complimentary Personal BluePrint…but that is more than we can get into here. If you are a leader, you may know that your Personal BluePrint creates the culture of the workgroups you lead.

Finally, why $25.00 and not more? I want everyone who wants the information to have this information. So, I’m pricing this at a level where price isn’t the issue. Also, $25.00 is also about the price of a book at a bookstore. Eventually, all this will be available as a book and I’ll move this off the web for the book sales. There is a money back guarantee. If the information from the site is not helpful, call me and I'll return your money.